Not Every Woman Loves Pink

The past couple of weeks have been rough. I lost someone in my personal circle to breast cancer, another in my professional circle, and learned a dear friend was recently diagnosed. As a woman and as a psychotherapist who works in Alpharetta with women affected by breast cancer, I am certainly familiar with October - Breast Cancer Awareness Month (BCAM).  Walks for breast cancer research, pink ribbons for survivors, flyers, handouts, and articles encouraging women to pay attention to breast health and get mammograms.  All of which are positive, helpful and encouraging.  Many survivors find strength in pink ribbons and becoming part of the cause can be a way to help process and make sense of their experience.

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Caregivers: Top 10 Quick Ways to Slow Down and Take Care of Yourself

You’ve heard it before, if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else. 

What does that mean exactly?  If you tend to put others’ needs before your own and you’re running around for everyone else feeling overwhelmed and anxious, who is taking care of you? If the answer is no one,  you’re at risk for burning out. 

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Top questions to ask a new therapist or counselor in Alpharetta

It's the middle of the night and you've decided what you're doing to cope with feeling overwhelmed and anxious isn't working. You know it's time to find a therapist or counselor in Alpharetta and you've taken steps to look for possible therapists in your area, now what?

If you’ve found a couple of therapists you’re considering, here are some questions to ask to help you narrow it down.

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Breast Cancer: I don't have time to be emotional!

Breast Cancer: I don't have time to be emotional!

You have breast cancer…….

As soon as you hear the words, the world stops.  How can you take in anything after that?  Once you contain the initial shock and fear, you jump into action mode – find a breast surgeon, medical oncologist, radiation oncologist, plastic surgeon, someone to take care of your kids, the list goes on.  You’re now more vulnerable than you’ve ever been, baring your breasts to four+ new providers.  They all discuss how this part of your body, that defines you in some way - woman, daughter, mother, grandmother, partner - is about to change – lumpectomy, mastectomy, lymph nodes. 

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A simple technique to calm the cancer fears keeping you up at night

Do you wake up and for a tenth of a nanosecond you’re “normal?”

That free and light sensation of being you, not your DIAGNOSIS. Then it hits you like a ton of bricks….CANCER…. You remember (painfully) that normal is a thing of the past, or at least of your past.  Normal is something other people have and take for granted, and you find yourself pissed off and agonizing over what ifs.

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